Feeling disconnected from your body or struggling with low libido?
You're not alone and it's not your fault.
As women, we’re often told that our sexuality should look a certain way: effortless, desirable, always ready. But behind the scenes, many of us are quietly wondering why the spark feels so far away.
You may have tried quick fixes: lingerie, dieting, a vacation, even forcing yourself to "just get in the mood", but none of that addresses the deeper truth:
Real pleasure starts from within.
The good news? You can awaken your body and your desire naturally, through simple, at-home somatic practices like pelvic floor breathwork, breast meditations, and womb yoga.
This isn’t just about sex, it’s about reclaiming your connection to your body, confidence, and feminine energy.
Because the truth is, many women struggle to feel confident in their sexuality. Whether it’s shame from past experiences, cultural conditioning, or simply the stress of daily life, your nervous system and emotional body might be blocking the flow of your natural arousal.
To begin truly healing, you need more than a surface-level fix.
You need a return to self-awareness. Breathwork, journaling, and gentle somatic practices offer powerful tools for reconnecting with your pleasure.
Try these journal prompts to start your journey:
What’s your biggest challenge when it comes to feeling pleasure alone or with a partner?
Do you feel safe and confident expressing your desires?
Are there lingering feelings of shame, guilt, or fear around your sexuality?
Can you fully relax and receive during intimacy?
The most important part of sexual healing is letting go of self-judgment and the pressure to "fix" yourself.
True healing and transformation starts with self-compassion.
Only then can you begin to gently release the heavy emotions, fears, and shame that may be holding you back from fully experiencing your body and pleasure.
Through simple somatic practices like pelvic floor breathwork and womb meditation, you can build a deeper connection with your sensuality, improve arousal, and strengthen the foundation for more embodied, fulfilling intimacy.
When I started my sexual healing journey, it started small and with gentle curiosity. Yes I’m guilty of going for the quick fixes which now feel quite silly: a new hairstyle, lingerie, supplements! Although these things did ‘do the trick’ for a short moment, I wasn’t getting to the root cause of my issue.
I was a beautiful woman on the outside but on the inside, I felt blocked. I wasn’t confident and I didn’t have any connection to my body. In a way, I was just going through the motions when it comes to sex. It almost became a gift that I gave to men. I never thought to prioritize my pleasure during sex or to explore my own pleasure alone.
Here’s how I started to improve my libido and confidence:
I started to take a serious look at my unresolved trauma and how to release it. This is not to say that everyone reading this has trauma they need to release. You might just have heavy emotions or non-serving thoughts that are blocking you.
But most often, there is ‘something’ there blocking sexual flow.
I committed to daily womb yoga and meditation to connect to my sacral chakra and womb. I realized in this moment that I‘d never really connected to this space with intention.
This small new positive habit had a ripple effect. Instead of just doing yoga or breathwork, I focused on breathing with my womb, meditating with her, and exploring gentle movements to open up my pelvis and hips.
Things began to feel lighter. I felt more connected to my womb and sexuality.
From here, I began to really honor my feelings and needs. I was slowly aligning with feminine energy and she had a very distinct rhythm. There were phases during the month that I felt more confident and sexual. And there were phases where I felt more closed and inward.
I began to honor my feminine rhythm instead of blindly demanding my body to feel sexual as I wanted it to.
This pertains to the seasons as well. During the winter months (or rainy season), I felt myself go inward and restful and I began to honor this phase just as Mother Earth does.
Aligning with feminine energy using simple meditations, breathwork, affirmations, and journaling will help you improve your sex drive
From here, I slowly began to deepen my practices to include pelvic floor breathing exercises (known in tantra yoga as Yoni Bandhas).
It’s important that you approach this as a gentle journey not a race. There’s no point in jumping straight to the breathwork techniques if you’ve not also given space for trauma release and healing first.
The pelvic floor breathwork to improve tone, pleasure, and heighten sexuality is known as Yoni bandhas.
The Yoni bandha breathwork practice involves breathing between gently holding and releasing the pelvic floor muscles. This is not kegels as kegels do not connect breathing with pelvic movement.
The benefits of Yoni Bandhas (Pelvic Floor Breathwork):
Improve tone: The tone of a woman’s pelvic floor often weakens after menopause. Lack of tone can also result in prolapse.
Improve pelvic alignment: Improper pelvic alignment (such as tucking the tailbone) can increase the risk of prolapse.
Womb healing: It builds a healthy relationship with a woman’s sexual organs where feelings of shame, guilt, and fear are often stored.
Strengthen the pelvic floor: Pelvic floor exercises - without other treatment - can improve ailments such as incontinence. Consider that 50% of women with children have prolapse and 10% have symptoms.
There are many types of pelvic floor breathwork practices (yoni bandhas), womb yoga asanas, and somatic exercises to help you improve intimacy, pleasure, and sex drive.
Tap here to explore the exercises right away! Watch my YouTube: Boost confidence in intimacy (10-minute meditation + tantra exercises)
Bottom Line
If you’re ready to improve your sex drive, arousal, and pleasure, start small and be patient.
Sexual healing is an exciting journey of discovery and every woman’s is different.
Start with releasing what might be blocking access to your own pleasure: This means releasing any trauma, non-serving thought patterns, and heavy emotions that you’re holding onto.
From here, commit to an simple daily somatic practice of 5-10 minutes to explore womb meditation, womb yoga, and breathwork. This will help you build a loving relationship with your body and womb.
As it feels right in your body, begin to explore the yoni bandha practices. Take it one step at a time.
Next Steps: Ready to reconnect with your feminine energy?
Download my free guided meditation and begin your journey back to softness, sensuality, and embodied feminine energy.
Feel more calm, confident, and connected right away! ⬇️
About Joss Frank
Yoga Therapist C-IAYT, Wild Womb Founder
I’m Joss Frank, certified Yoga Therapist (C-IAYT) and founder of Wild Womb, where I help women heal naturally from anxiety, burnout, hormone imbalance, trauma, and emotional overwhelm through somatic exercises, yoga therapy and womb yoga practices.
After years of living with depression, anxiety, and chronic stress, I found lasting healing through body-based practices that support the nervous system, pelvic health, and emotional release.
This journey inspired me to create my online course and guided meditations that help women reconnect with their bodies, balance their hormones, and feel empowered in their feminine energy.
My approach blends somatic therapy, yoga nidra, cyclical awareness, breathwork, and trauma-informed womb yoga, giving you practical self-care tools you can do from the comfort of your home to release stress and reclaim confidence, pleasure, and emotional well-being.
If you're ready to start your healing journey at home, check out my online feminine energy course or explore my blog and YouTube channel for free practices and inspiration.