I used to use (and LOVE) birth control. In fact, I used to take the Depo shot for years…I didn’t menstruate at all. I truly believed I was ‘winning’ at life because I never had to deal with bleeding! However, what I soon came to realize was that I was feeling very disconnected and disempowered…and it was not a coincidence. I’d like to share with you a little bit about what I mean by that.

Let’s start with the spiritual significance of your menstrual blood. Women have an intuitive and heightened state of consciousness within their natural cycles and rhythms. The major mind-set shift for all women to take is to recognize their blood as a POWER instead of an annoyance.

If embracing your blood as a power feels silly. Keep in mind that studies suggest there was a time (before patriarchy of course) around 5th Century BCE where the peaceful worship of Earth’s rhythms and the fertility of women was a big deal.

In fact, artifacts from the Indus Valley Civilization suggest a very female-centred lifestyle focused on great honour of Earth and Women’s rhythms*.

A woman’s blood and fertility was a divine energy of fertility, growth, and creativity and certainly not something to block and resist with birth control.

Since that long-ago time, we’ve had years of patriarchy with a focus on ways to hide and block menstrual blood vs ways to embrace and honour it. Therefore, shifting into embracing your blood as a power could require a lot of ‘unlearning’.

Do you sense you have a lot of ‘un-learning’ to do before you can truly embrace your blood as a gift and a power to tap into?

Let’s get into what happens when you come off of birth control. Straight up, I didn't truly know myself as a woman until I stopped birth control and took deep introspective time to explore my cycle days, patterns, and sexual rhythms. I never knew that I could track my cycle (not using the period apps! But a special journal process) and discover SO much about my rhythm of power, creativity, and sexuality.

I’m continually fascinated by my monthly cycle. I also love that I can look up at the moon each month and anticipate my cycle day. I am deeply connected to the universe and it gives me a great sense of empowerment.

I also discovered some fascinating research on birth control from Dr Sarah E Hill:
(This study is based on heterosexual relationships, I’ve not found any other types of studies but I will include them ASAP as soon as they’re released)

“On birth control, you are no longer producing oestrogen, this hormone does some of our fav things like making us feel sexier and more energetic! This hormone also nudges a women’s preferences regarding romantic partners...to favour qualities that are associated with masculinity and higher testosterone (square-cut jaws, broad shoulders and brow ridges, etc). Research suggests pill-taking women – in their state of artificial progesterone dominance and lacking a cyclical oestrogen urge – seem to prefer the faces of men who are less masculine…” **
[Click here to read the whole article from Dr Sarah E Hill]

Since saying BYE to birth control, here’s where I’ve found clarity and connection:

• I know the qualities that I truly desire in a partner

• I know my optimal time to rest and be inward vs when its time to be expressive and outward

• I know the exact days where these energy states are heightened: power and voice, sexual, and creative.

On birth control, I didn’t have this clarity or connection. I felt blocked from my own power.

* Thank you to Uma Tuli Dinsmore for her blessed insights on this topic.

** Thanks to Zoe Corbyn for this insightful article. If this topic intrigues you, check out the book 'How the Pill Changes Everything: Your Brain on Birth Control'⁠

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